- 30 THINGS NOBODY TELLS YOU ABOUT LONG TERM TRAVEL AS A COUPLE
- “Never mind, you were also there!” would probably be the end of most of your conversations.
- You’ll both have the same song stuck in your head for a while and both of you wouldn’t know the name of it and sometimes, not even the words!
- You would probably miss each other even for shorter periods spent apart.
- You would feel and act like one conjoined person and stop feeling like two different people.
- You will end up wear identical outfits all the time.
- You will have arguments. A lot of them.
- Most of the arguments would revolve around exhaustion, being hungry or simply being overwhelmed.
- Take a breather when you start arguing.
- Do not take the fights and the arguments personally.
- You will crave some familiarity
- You will miss home during the holidays the most.
- Things get better after a while.
- You will start treating the place where you stay as your new home
- Travel will get exhausting
- You may simply decide not to follow your well-researched plans or not follow the travel itinerary
- Your pace slows down.
- You want a vacation to recover from the vacation.
- You will become extremely grateful for the tiniest show of affection like a home-cooked meal.
- You become open to your partner’s suggestions.
- You will learn to compromise.
- There will be days where you both would do “your own thing”
- You will learn to say: “I will do this, if you do that”
- You will learn to read your partner’s expressions.
- You may not always enjoy the food.
- You learn to understand each other’s boundaries.
- You both change over time.
- You learn to be patient with the other person’s style of travelling.
- You learn to communicate “well”.
- You learn to make time for yourself.
- Your relationship will never be the same again.
30 THINGS NOBODY TELLS YOU ABOUT LONG TERM TRAVEL AS A COUPLE
“Never mind, you were also there!” would probably be the end of most of your conversations.
When you are travelling together especially for the long term, it means you will be glued together all the time. You suddenly wouldn’t have much thrilling information to share at dinner time either.
You’ll both have the same song stuck in your head for a while and both of you wouldn’t know the name of it and sometimes, not even the words!
Depending on where you are travelling or what part of the world you are in, the song could be in the foreign exotic language the both of you are trying so hard to pick up! The best bet for you is to simply Google it, or let it play in your mind. For days
You would probably miss each other even for shorter periods spent apart.
Call it romantic, or call it weird. When couples spend too much time together, travelling and exploring, they sort of become an extension of themselves, like an extra limb. Time spent apart without your partner would not be much fun since you would become used to sharing everything
You would feel and act like one conjoined person and stop feeling like two different people.
If you ever venture out on your own leaving your significant other behind, you will find yourself missing your other half constantly! Upon reunion, you would find yourself sharing all kinds of information from your solo trip, such as what you saw and what you did – which could have been better had the other one been there!
You will end up wear identical outfits all the time.
Even if you do not wear matching clothes, you will eventually end up wearing them somehow, wherever you go. You might even discuss what the other person is wearing on the new venture at night and dress up identically.
You will have arguments. A lot of them.
Travelling together and that too for a long term journey means being in each other’s faces all the time. Even though it brings you together as a couple, it would also make you argue a lot over simple little things.
Most of the arguments would revolve around exhaustion, being hungry or simply being overwhelmed.
You will eventually end up interpreting the other person’s crankiness and will know whether they are hungry or tired and quickly suggest, “time for a snack?” or “time to hit the bed?” The best thing to do in such situations is take a few minutes out and grab a quick coffee or something to munch on.
Take a breather when you start arguing.
The last thing you want to do is get on each other’s nerves in a foreign country, surrounded by complete strangers. When you feel the conversation isn’t going any further the best thing to do is stay quiet and let it pass.
Do not take the fights and the arguments personally.
Fights and arguments are inevitable. Eventually you do learn not to take them personally. Travelling together is full of challenges and it is possible your partner is just being homesick. It happens to the best of us.
You will crave some familiarity
It happens to everyone that eventually, you start missing home. Whether it is English movies or fast food restaurants or any other traveler you meet from your home country, it will make you miss your home more when you catch up with them about everything related to your country.
You will miss home during the holidays the most.
Those who have lived away or from home probably can relate to this. When you travelling or on the road for some time, the moments when you miss your home, your town or your family the most are during the holiday season or during your own favorite holidays.
Things get better after a while.
Things are really not easy during the first few weeks of travel but eventually you do get eased into it. You will find yourself mourning and wondering whether you have made a mistake by venturing out on a long term vacation. It is however, always a great advantage of having your partner with you to deal with the homesickness.
You will start treating the place where you stay as your new home
If you happen to stay in one place for more than three to four days, you will start arranging your belongings and making it your new home. It may start to bother you if your partner does not put their belongings on the right places though!
Travel will get exhausting
When it comes to long term travel, it is not like any road trip you did during your spring break or a weekend trip you made outside the city. Long term travel can get exhausting unless you take time off and relax, you need down time where you do absolutely nothing! In long term travelling, you simply cannot do sightseeing every single day!
You may simply decide not to follow your well-researched plans or not follow the travel itinerary
You would both have a check list of place that you would want to see in every city and places you both want to visit. But practically, it gets impossible to manage everything and you will probably end up throwing your to do list out of the window and simply relax in your room. It does get exhausting.
Your pace slows down.
The first few weeks of travelling, you would both be trying to cram everything in and trying to see as many exciting places and attractions as possible. But eventually, a few more weeks down and you will be slowing down. Your pace will get slower and anything less than a week would feel rushed.
You want a vacation to recover from the vacation.
You will start missing not doing anything at all. You would look to find places where you can make a home base for some time and take some time off your vacation. You will probably end up finding some place where you can do nothing but watch movies in your pajamas all day.
You will become extremely grateful for the tiniest show of affection like a home-cooked meal.
You will end up narrowing down homes for trusted house sitters and having any form of kind gesture like a home-cooked meal, a couch or not having a bunch of people snoring next to you will make you so grateful!
You become open to your partner’s suggestions.
It is possible that you always were the one who made the decisions in your relationship but with travelling for a long time together, you learn that your partner may have some great insights and ideas as well, a few times they can prove you wrong and eventually you will start taking their word for it!
You will learn to compromise.
You might want to not go out and sight see some more and may just want to stay tucked in bed with a good book to read after a long day of touring around. Your partner on the other hand, may want to go out and party some more. You would learn to eventually give up, compromise your choices and join their fun for their sake.
There will be days where you both would do “your own thing”
It is not stereo typical that men generally enjoy more adventurous journeys while women like spas, massages and going for a shopping spree. Even if you both do enjoy similar adventures together, there will be times where you both would just want to do your own thing.
You will learn to say: “I will do this, if you do that”
You may want to go for mountain climbing or scuba diving but your partner may not be up for it, maybe you might want to take some of their fear out or add some dare devil spark into them. You will eventually come to terms where you will both come to a mutual understanding.
You will learn to read your partner’s expressions.
You will learn to know when you partner is down, upset or angry. You might be at a religious festival which may make your spouse uncomfortable but you may be thoroughly enjoying it. You would learn to read your partners expression and decide it is time to go.
You may not always enjoy the food.
Travelling for long term means going to all sorts of places where you may absolutely love the food, while other times, you would simply not be able to gulp anything down. You would both learn to look for alternatives or end up cooking your favorite meals together which you miss back home.
You learn to understand each other’s boundaries.
You would learn to understand and respect each other’s boundaries. Compromising with each other while on the road is one thing but pushing someone outside their comfort zone is another. You will know when to draw the line and not force your partner into something they do not want to do.
You both change over time.
You both can be poles apart. One of you may have been used to not sharing bathrooms while the other was the neat freak. Travel over the long-term, can change the whole personality of a person and with different places where you end up staying at, you learn to be flexible.
You learn to be patient with the other person’s style of travelling.
You both could have been travel buffs and have been traveling solo before. Travelling with another person and that too your partner, can be a different story altogether. You might be used to waking up super early to explore the new city on foot. While your partner may want to sleep in, catch a cab and be more easy going.
You learn to communicate “well”.
After a few misunderstood conversations you certainly end up learning how to communicate with each other and communicate well so that you both understand each other and are on the same page. So next time you decide to go out for an evening you would know your partner has understood you well.
You learn to make time for yourself.
You might be too busy doing things for your partner and going by what they want to do, want to eat and want to see. But eventually there will come a time and you would want to do something for yourself and then you will learn you make time for yourself.
Your relationship will never be the same again.
It changes the relationship forever. You will learn to understand your partner better and will know their best qualities and their worst. You would know what to expect when they are extremely tired, hungry or sleepy. You will understand your partner better and speak without using actual words.